When the Self Doubt Rears It's Ugly Head, Don't Invite It To Stay

Occasionally, I have an attack of self-doubt. Thankfully it doesn’t happen often and usually it doesn’t take long before I return to my stable sense of myself.  But if does happen, and it catches me off guard a little before I send it along its way.

A friend asked me how I do that, and her question stumped me. How do I do it? Was I born with a natural self-trust or did I acquire it somehow?

I think it’s a little bit of both. I was born with a natural positivity, and I have read a lot and listened to others enough that I’ve picked up a million little techniques that I can draw on when I need them.

So, when self-doubt hits me, I first allow myself to feel it (‘feel it to heal it’). I don’t wallow in it, I don’t let it take up residence, but I give it its due. And then I get to work on reframing it. I remember that absolutely everyone feels self-doubt at some point, so this is normal. I remember that this feeling won’t last forever; so, I can relax and put my attention elsewhere.

Before long, those scary thoughts dissipate and I’m back to my old sense. Thank goodness.

Try this ONE thing

When you get an attack of self-doubt, let it be, focus elsewhere and let it move on. It most cases it will.

Want to experience coaching? I like to start with a deep, get-to-know-you conversation to see if we are right for each other. Sometimes we talk for one or two hours at no charge. I have no goal except to bring about transformation. Together we work on the lies, the self-deception, the fears of the power you perceive to be outside yourself. We work on your on your difficulties in making decisions and your inability thus far to make bold choices in life and to follow through and trust yourself completely to do so.

The irony for some people is that the very thing that they want the coaching for (an indecisive, half-hearted life) is what’s keeping them from deciding whether to get coaching.

When you’re ready, reach out @ karen.laidlaw.theONEthing@outlook.com. Meanwhile, enjoy the blog!