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If It Doesn't Feel Good, It's Probably Because You're Settling

I like gel pens. I use them almost exclusively. But air travel often messes them up resulting in ink escaping out that tiny little blowhole on the side of the pen. The other day I found myself writing in my journal at night and my pen was alternately spilling out or running dry, but I kept struggling with it.

Why would I keep struggling with something that clearly wasn’t working? I promptly got up and tossed that pen and got another one from my bag; simple as that.

And yet we struggle with things that don’t feel good or aren’t working. Perhaps we feel there is some honour in the struggle. There is not. So quit it.

There are enough things in life you struggle with; the things that are outside your control. Getting rid of a used pen is not one of those. Neither are those other choices you’ve made in the past that no longer work for you. Get rid of them too.

Try this ONE thing

Check in with yourself and be honest about what’s not working. Why are you settling for that? You don’t have to. You can make the choice to stop.


Want to experience coaching? I like to start with a deep, get-to-know-you conversation to see if we are right for each other. Sometimes we talk for one or two hours at no charge. I have no goal except to bring about transformation. Together we work on the lies, the self-deception, and the fears of the power you perceive to be outside yourself. We work on your difficulties in making decisions and your inability thus far to make bold choices in life and to follow through and trust yourself completely to do so.

The irony for some people is that the very thing that they want the coaching for (an indecisive, half-hearted life) is what’s keeping them from deciding whether to get coaching.

When you’re ready, reach out @ Meanwhile, enjoy the blog!

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