Shit happens! Just when you’re feeling good and confident and safe, wham! Someone goes and does something. And suddenly you find yourself in a tailspin.
And you start to doubt, to second-guess yourself and all your former decisions.
Don’t do it. Don’t even start. You are not at the mercy of the actions of others, not really. Of course, it feels like you are initially. It feels like someone has done something to you.
But they haven’t. They’ve decided something and it is having an impact on you, that’s all.
When life hits you hard, here are some do’s and don’ts:
DON’T spend time judging. Epictetus, the Stoic, says, ‘until you know their reasons, how do you know whether they’ve acted wrongly’.
DON’T play the victim and live a tale of woe over the thing. You are not a victim and acting like one will feel crappy and leave you stuck.
DO remember that you are loved. Reach out for some love from your inner circle, the people who know you best and love you anyways.
And now for the hardest DO of all – DO ask yourself how this particular thing could actually be a gift to you. Maybe it’s giving you a clear signal of your next direction. Maybe it’s telling you it’s time to make a change you’ve been considering for a while. Maybe it’s a warning that you’re not taking good enough care of yourself.
Try this ONE thing
The next time life knocks you down, and it will, follow these DO’s and DON’Ts to quickly turn it around to a gift for you.
Want some help with this. I’ve done it countless times so check out my story on my website, Karen Laidlaw the ONE Thing. And you’ll find lots of good freebies there too.
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