How Did You Lose Yourself, And How Do You Get Back to Yourself Again

I don’t know where my confidence went, one day it all disappeared, is the opening line of a Blue Rodeo song. As I listened, I thought of how that happened to me in my younger days. A bad marriage, a job that didn’t challenge me, and suddenly I was wondering where that confident girl in my twenties went.

A couple of days ago I was acknowledging how far I’d come from that girl in 1998 who’d escaped that marriage. Now 27 years later, I can look back on a wonderful adventure filled life with more blessings than I could have imagined back then.

How did I do it?  I wish I could say there was a magic moment when everything fell into place, but that didn’t happen. Instead, it was a continuous stringing together of small achievements and victories: landing a better-paying job, lucking into an assignment that rocketed my career forward as I discovered my real talents, building a broad network of inspiring colleagues and fans, focusing on taking care of myself along with everyone else.

In short, it was a daily commitment to doing my best and believing I had something to offer and then offering that up. No overnight success here, just sure and steady progress and a gratitude for everything good that happened to me.

Try this ONE thing

Can you celebrate who you are now and focus on forward momentum. Do your best today and then do it again tomorrow.

Want to experience coaching? I like to start with a deep, get-to-know-you conversation to see if we are right for each other. Sometimes we talk for one or two hours at no charge. I have no goal except to bring about transformation. Together we work on the lies, the self-deception, the fears of the power you perceive to be outside yourself. We work on your difficulties in making decisions and your inability thus far to make bold choices in life and to follow through and trust yourself completely to do so.

The irony for some people is that the very thing that they want the coaching for (an indecisive, half-hearted life) is what’s keeping them from deciding whether to get coaching.

When you’re ready, reach out @ karen.laidlaw.theONEthing@outlook.com. Meanwhile, enjoy the blog!