Honouring My Heart: Why I Won’t Apologize For Wanting More

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on what it means to truly honour my own desires—especially when it comes to dating in midlife. After a recent date with a genuinely kind man, I found myself feeling guilty for not wanting a second date. He was thoughtful and attentive, but there just wasn’t a spark. Still, I caught myself wondering: Am I being too picky? Should I give it another chance just because everything else seemed “right”?

This isn’t the first time I’ve questioned my own wants. For years, I’ve been tempted to shrink my desires to fit what others expect, or to avoid seeming “demanding”. But I’m learning that my wants are valid, even if they don’t make sense to anyone else. I don’t need to justify them, and I certainly don’t need to apologize for them. If I’m holding out for something that truly lights me up, that’s not being unreasonable—that’s honouring myself.

It’s taken me a long time to get here. I’ve spent much of my life compromising, settling, or convincing myself that “good enough” should be enough. But I know now that I’m allowed to want more, and that it’s okay to say no to what doesn’t feel right—even if it looks perfect on paper.

So, the next time I feel pressured to compromise, I’ll remind myself: I’m not being ungrateful or unrealistic. I’m simply listening to my heart, and that’s enough.

Try this ONE thing

When you feel guilty for wanting more, pause and ask yourself: “What do I really want?” Then, give yourself permission to honour that answer—no apologies needed.

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