When Someone Shows You Who They Are, Believe Them

I was getting to know a man from the dating sites. He seemed nice enough so I decided we could meet. We met for dessert and the conversation flowed. I had fun so I agreed to a second date.

He had been in the habit of texting me each morning and he did the next day and then silence. For four days I didn’t hear from him. I wasn’t too bothered, as I’ve experienced this before with some men.

On the fifth day, the rage texts started; four of them in rapid succession. They seemed to centre around the fact that I hadn’t texted him. Before I had a chance to respond, the next one came. They were filled with assumptions, accusations and insults. And they were quite hurtful.

And the me that I am now quickly realized this person does not know me and doesn’t get to insult me this way. I blocked him and then got back to being the self I’ve grown to be and love.

And the good news is that despite telling me he was a kind gentleman, he showed me very early on his true nature and for that I’m grateful. I can let him go without any guilt.

Try this ONE thing

When people behave badly or are unloving to you, be grateful for what they are showing you, bless them and release them.

 

Want to experience coaching? I like to start with a deep, get-to-know-you conversation to see if we are right for each other. Sometimes we talk for one or two hours at no charge. I have no goal except to bring about transformation. Together we work on the lies, the self-deception, the fears of the power you perceive to be outside yourself. We work on your on your difficulties in making decisions and your inability thus far to make bold choices in life and to follow through and trust yourself completely to do so.

The irony for some people is that the very thing that they want the coaching for (an indecisive, half-hearted life) is what’s keeping them from deciding whether to get coaching.

When you’re ready, reach out @ karen.laidlaw.theONEthing@outlook.com. Meanwhile, enjoy the blog!