I am working through the exercises in the book, Are You Ready To Succeed by Srikumar Rao. This week the challenge was to identify our mental models, read beliefs, in the areas of family, work, love and self. Then pick one belief that’s particularly troubling and select a more positive story that would suit you better. The idea is to pick one that feels good and that you can also believe.
I have been single for a long time and have often wondered why. Did my mom jinx me when she told me, as I left my husband and became a single parent to my two young children, that no man would ever love me? I’d be lying if I said it didn’t worm its way into my head and perhaps become something of a self-fulfilling prophecy. Oftentimes, I did question whether there was something wrong with me. Other times, I thought that there was so much good in my life, that I didn’t have the right to ask for more.
No part of these beliefs is helpful, useful or even true.
A better story is that there were other, more important, things that required my focus so romantic love had to take a back seat, for a space of time. I needed to raise my kids and give them a stable environment where the focus was on them. I needed to mourn and honour my sister. And I had a big contribution to make on the leaders in my company.
This was what my focus needed to be for that time. And now, those accomplishments are mostly done. Now it’s the time for romantic love. And that belief feels so much better.
Try this ONE thing
What beliefs are you holding that aren’t serving you right now? What could you replace them with that would feel more uplifting? Pick one and trying focusing on that one for a bit, and watch what happens.
Want to experience coaching? I like to start with a deep, get-to-know-you conversation to see if we are right for each other. Sometimes we talk for one or two hours at no charge. I have no goal except to bring about transformation. Together we work on the lies, the self-deception, and the fears of the power you perceive to be outside yourself. We work on your difficulties in making decisions and your inability thus far to make bold choices in life and to follow through and trust yourself completely to do so.
The irony for some people is that the very thing that they want the coaching for (an indecisive, half-hearted life) is what’s keeping them from deciding whether to get coaching.
When you’re ready, reach out @ karen.laidlaw.theONEthing@outlook.com. Meanwhile, enjoy the blog!
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