There are signs everywhere telling us the things we need to know. But most of the time we’re so busy looking elsewhere that we miss them.
I remember a colleague I worked with over twenty years ago. He was getting lots of criticism from the boss and sharp remarks in meetings. Once he even fell asleep in a meeting.
Unfortunately, I didn’t know him well enough to give him this feedback, but we all could see that bad things were about to happen to him. The signs were all there, except that he wasn’t listening. He missed the significance of them.
Why do we do that? Ignore the obvious, the things everyone else can see. The partner who’s not invested, the boss who’s about to fire us, the teen who’s suddenly acting differently.
Is it really because we’re so busy we don’t notice? Probably this is part of it.
But I think it’s because we don’t want to see; because if we do, we’ll have to act and that’s perhaps what’s most daunting. Too often, after ‘it” has happened, the thing we were ignoring, we can finally admit we aren’t surprised, there were signs.
Try this ONE thing
What if we decided to ask ourselves, what might I be missing in this situation? Or we could ask friends, what are you seeing that I’m missing? If we allow ourselves to be open to what is, we may just catch the thing before it’s irreparable.
Want to experience coaching? I like to start with a deep, get-to-know-you conversation to see if we are right for each other. Sometimes we talk for one or two hours at no charge. I have no goal except to bring about transformation. Together we work on the lies, the self-deception, the fears of the power you perceive to be outside yourself. We work on your difficulties in making decisions and your inability thus far to make bold choices in life and to follow through and trust yourself completely to do so.
The irony for some people is that the very thing that they want the coaching for (an indecisive, half-hearted life) is what’s keeping them from deciding whether to get coaching.
When you’re ready, reach out @ karen.laidlaw.theONEthing@outlook.com. Meanwhile, enjoy the blog!
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