I used to dread this day. Not having that special someone on Valentine’s Day felt like an indictment that I wasn’t loveable. I know, ridiculous isn’t it?
But I suffered a lot over this for a lot of years. It’s probably been 25 years since I had a Valentine. Oh, there was that one year about six years ago, but in retrospect, I’m not sure he was all that into it, or me for that matter.
It doesn’t sting anymore. I now know that it doesn’t mean anything. Or maybe it means I now love myself enough to be grateful I’m not with the wrong person. I love myself enough to not settle or try to make a wrong person right.
It’s been a journey. It’s been a lot of undoing of negative, persistent beliefs. It’s been purposefully quieting the voices of critics who should never have had a voice. It’s been getting to know me, the real me and what I want for myself.
I’ve done that work and this Valentine’s Day I’m sending myself flowers and a heart-shaped box of chocolates. I know now that loving myself is the crucial first step to having love in your life.
Try this ONE thing
What are you sending yourself this Valentine’s Day? Make sure it’s filled with love.
Hey! Are you already successful and accomplished? Do you have many things to appreciate about your life right now? Are you al.ways open to learning more and growing yourself?
Despite all your successes, do you sometimes doubt yourself? Do you hesitate to go after what you really want in life?
Or maybe you dismiss your past successes, putting them down to luck, and don’t really see how extraordinary you really are?
If this sounds like you, you and I should have a conversation. Drop me a line here, karen.laidlaw.theONEthing@outlook.com, and let’s talk!
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