I Don’t Experience It Often, But Pure Selfishness Is Still Alive And Well

Sometimes I forget that some people believe the world was built for them and that everyone is here to serve them. This while they give no thought to what others might need of them.

It always catches my attention when I encounter these people.  I think to myself, ‘oh yeah, I forgot there are still people who actually think and behave this way’. 

I have zero tolerance for that behaviour. I believe in kindness, consideration and respect for everyone. I want to live in a world where everyone feels seen and harmony reigns. (I know, I know, I’m that person.)

One man recently told me he wanted no one (including me) to have any expectations of him because he’d been looking after others his whole life and he didn’t want to do it anymore. Um, I think that’s called ‘adulting’ and haven’t we all been doing that our whole lives?

I get that he is free to make his own choices and live his life as he chooses. I have no issue with that. Where I have a problem is that this same person doesn’t mind expecting others (including me) to be his friend, to flatter him, to stave off his loneliness, to make him feel like a good person when he needs that.

Yeah, right. That’s not actually how the world works, that’s not how friendship works, that’s not how any relationship works. To that I say no thank you.

Try this ONE thing

Do you have people (men) in your life who expect from you but never seem to be there when you need them? I tolerated that, until I didn’t. You don’t have to tolerate it either.

Want to experience coaching? I like to start with a deep, get-to-know-you conversation to see if we are right for each other. Sometimes we talk for one or two hours at no charge. I have no goal except to bring about transformation. Together we work on the lies, the self-deception, the fears of the power you perceive to be outside yourself. We work on your difficulties in making decisions and your inability thus far to make bold choices in life and to follow through and trust yourself completely to do so.

The irony for some people is that the very thing that they want the coaching for (an indecisive, half-hearted life) is what’s keeping them from deciding whether to get coaching.

When you’re ready, reach out @ karen.laidlaw.theONEthing@outlook.com. Meanwhile, enjoy the blog!