Three months ago, I ended a relationship. It was painful and heartbreaking and caused me a sleepless night.
What was most surprising, though, was how relieved I felt. What!?
I know, not your typical emotion post-breakup. So why was I so relieved?
Because I knew he didn’t love me, and I’d probably known all along. I didn’t want to know it, so I focused on minute little signs that he did love me, and I clung to those. But when he finally admitted to me that he didn’t, and when the pain cleared, I was relieved. I no longer had to spend energy convincing myself he loved me or trying to convince him I was worthy of love. The truth was out, and the pretense was over.
And now I am truly free to move on.
Here’s what I’ve learned. Avoiding the truth did not make it go away; it just prolonged my attachment and my ultimate pain when the truth finally came out. Way later than it should have, I might add, but that’s on him.
Try this ONE thing
When you’ve got a sense there’s a truth you’re avoiding, ask yourself, is there something here I know, that I don’t want to know? And have the courage to answer that truthfully.
Doing this at the first hint, while scary and painful, is so much better than ignoring it. If there’s pain coming, the sooner you bring it out and face it, the sooner you move on to something better.
Hey! Are you already successful and accomplished? Do you have many things to appreciate about your life right now? Are you always open to learning more and growing yourself?
Despite all your successes, do you sometimes doubt yourself? Do you hesitate to go after what you really want in life?
Or maybe you dismiss your past successes, putting them down to luck, and don’t really see how extraordinary you really are?
If this sounds like you, you and I should have a conversation. Drop me a line here,
, and let’s talk!