I’ve been teaching and appreciating the power of the pause, taking a breather between something that triggers me and my response. It allows me to avoid reacting from emotion.
Something happened a bit ago that hurt and angered me and I knew I had to respond.
I also knew I didn’t want to respond from those feelings, but I wasn’t sure exactly what I wanted to say. So, I waited.
And I waited.
Six days later, I finally knew what I wanted to say and how I wanted to say it. That pause allowed me to process my feelings and move into a neutral feeling space (meaning my emotions were no longer running me). And that allowed me to formulate a response that was inspired by my highest wish: to be truthful and forthright and to leave the other person’s self-esteem intact.
So much better than what I might’ve responded in the moment.
Try this ONE thing
Next time you find yourself triggered by something someone said or did, take a pause. No matter if it’s 60 seconds or six days…allow yourself time to inspired in your response.
Want to experience coaching? I like to start with a deep, get-to-know-you conversation to see if we are right for each other. Sometimes we talk for one or two hours at no charge. I have no goal except to bring about transformation. Together we work on the lies, the self-deception, and the fears of the power you perceive to be outside yourself. We work on your difficulties in making decisions and your inability thus far to make bold choices in life and to follow through and trust yourself completely to do so.
The irony for some people is that the very thing that they want the coaching for (an indecisive, half-hearted life) is what’s keeping them from deciding whether to get coaching.
When you’re ready, reach out @ karen.laidlaw.theONEthing@outlook.com. Meanwhile, enjoy the blog!
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